Still Single on Valentine's Day?
Ah, Valentine's Day...the day of the year where most single girls become depressed, question their existence, become bitter, and wonder if life is worth living...because THEY DON'T HAVE A FELLA!!! What's a girl to do?? HOW are we going to get through this day?
Well, my friends, I have good news! You CAN get through Valentine's Day as a single lady and it most certainly doesn't mean it has to be the worst day of the year for you. Please bear with me as I try to put down all of my jumbled thoughts to where they will make sense. ;)
Honestly, I think a lot of girls today are a little over-dramatic when it comes to February 14th. And when we step back to look at the reason, it all goes back to being consumed about self. What can I get out of it, how can I be satisfied, what about my desires that NEED to be fulfilled? I'm lonely, I want to be in a relationship and I can't be content until then. What does the Bible have to say about this mindset?
"Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves." {Philippians 2:3}
"Even as the Son of man came not to be ministered unto, but to minister, and to give his life a ransom for many." {Matthew 20:28}
According to these verses, I can't envision Jesus moping around and feeling sorry for Himself...instead, He sought to serve and help others and gave His all to be about His Father's business. He placed His needs and wants aside to put others first and ultimately, laid down His life for us. As a child of God, we should want to imitate our Father and follow in His footsteps.
Now, before you think that I am this perfect Christian girl who has always been content and satisfied with this season of life, please hear me out...I have DEFINITELY had my struggles. Goodness gracious alive, how I have struggled! But I am so thankful at what Jesus has taught me over these last several years and how He has brought me to a place of contentment. He gives such peace and joy when you simply surrender and give everything over to Him.
So with that said...
Girls, where are you trying to get your happiness from? Are you going to be discontent until you have a man in your life? Who has your heart?
"For He satisfieth the longing soul, and filleth the hungry soul with goodness." {Psalm 107:9}
No man will be able to fully satisfy your heart...only Jesus can. Two imperfect humans will not create a perfect marriage. If I just burst your bubble...I'm sorry. ;) But it is time that we realize that our lives will not become perfect after we say "I do", because even though marriage is a beautiful picture of Christ and His bride here on earth, it is a sanctifying process. Are you viewing singleness as a trial that you must endure until Prince Charming comes along? Because if you are, you will be absolutely miserable during your time of waiting. But if you view your time as a single girl as a time to serve and prepare, it can be incredibly exciting! (And even though I'm not married, I don't like to label myself as "single"; that reminds me of someone who is alone, which I definitely am not, with all my wonderful family and friends, but I use it as that's the term everyone uses for someone who is unmarried.)
Being single is such a gift! There is SO MUCH you can do in this season of life without the responsiblity of a family that you may not be able to do at any other time. EMBRACE where the Lord has you. Thank Him for this time and then look for ways to bless and serve others. Is there a busy stay-at-home mom that lives close by? She would love to have extra help! What about a grandparent or elderly person that you could visit and brighten their day? If you have the gift of music, look for courses/lessons to take and develop your skills. Could your mom use help with laundry, cleaning and cooking? What housekeeping skills could you develop if you're at home? Pray for the Lord to open doors for ministry. Hand out tracts when you're in town running errands. Spread the Gospel. Invest in your siblings' lives. Look for ways to further your education. The sky is truly the limit! Seek the Lord on what He would have you to do during this season and then GO DO IT!
So how about we all try something different this Valentine's Day?
"...remember the words of the Lord Jesus, how he said, It is more blessed to give than to receive." {Acts 20:35}
Get up with a smile, praise Jesus for what He has blessed you with, and then look for ways to invest in others!
Don't look back at this season with regret...live life to the very fullest!
"Only Jesus has the answer to the things that really matter. Only Jesus can meet the deepest hunger of the human heart. Only Jesus is the answer to man's sin. Only Jesus gives meaning to life and death. Only Jesus can take the sting out of sin and the gloom out of the grave, the pain out of parting and give HOPE that is steadfast and sure. To whom shall we go? Only Jesus."
~Adrian Rogers
Happy Valentine's Day!
